One minute it's going great, then next he's done a complete Casper on you, and ‘bam' disappeared into thin air!
Ghosting is the biggest crimes of the modern dating scene.
It’s far too common to be put to chance. So, we’ve gone behind enemy lines to investigate the top reasons you’ve been ghosted.
1. He is a D-U-D
Sorry, call us petty, but if he is going to ignore one of our gal’s, it is pretty darn clear to us – he is a dud.
Okay, look - maybe this one isn’t necessarily backed up by scientific evidence - but, it's backed up by the girls at Sincere Sally HQ.
Let’s be real for a sec – we are living in a generation that provides instant gratification and numerous options at the swipe of a button. The modern dating scene is the commit-a-phobes playground.
It’s becoming more and more acceptable to be ‘flakey.’
So maybe he's not ready to commit, and that's okay. See it as a learning experience and move on from that 'dud.'
2. You Remind Him Of His Ex
Sounds cray, but this is more common than you think.
It might have been something you said or the way you acted that reminded him of that girl he doesn’t want to talk about. This can be a protective mechanism to prevent him from being hurt again.
Just a reminder, don’t sweat the small stuff. You can’t change things beyond your control – so 'you do you' Boo.
3. Ghosting Is The Easy Way Out
Confrontations are difficult.
Breaking up with someone is difficult.
Human nature craves convenience, and for some, the more comfortable option is to ignore messages than to tell someone you aren't interested via text – or god forbid- in person.
4. You Came On Too Strong
Let’s be honest, a few of us here at Sincere Sally HQ are guilty of this.
It's nothing to be embarrassed about.
It can happen when you are super into someone, and they don't seem to be reciprocating these same feels.
Know for next time, reflect on whether that double text was really necessary and if all else fails, ask for a friend's advice (preferably one who is as cool as a cucumber).
If being extra is you –that's super cool. Maybe he is not for you. If he isn't going to reply to your incredibly funny and cute texts, then there is going to be someone else waiting around the corner who embraces you for being you!
If he left you on read, it’s his loss.
We hate to say in, but in our best mum’s voice… ‘there’s plenty more fish in the sea.’
5. You came on too weak
But, hear us out.
‘Playing hard to get' can be fun for some, but serious guys will see this game from a mile away.
Ask yourself. Have you been waiting for the perfect guy, but also been ignoring texts, or always ‘too busy’ for those you might be interested in.
All guys aren’t the devil (okay, maybe your ex is). But beating down his ego as a way to get him interested was never the start of any great love story.
Agree? Send your opinion or ghosting horror stories to firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject: ‘I WAS GHOSTED' so we can share it for other girls on our IG story (anonymously if you like).